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Success is something that many of us strive for, yet sometimes we find ourselves struggling to achieve our goals. While there are external factors that can impede our progress, sometimes we are our own worst enemy when it comes to achieving success. In this article, we will explore six ways that people sabotage their own success and how to overcome these self-sabotaging behaviors.

  1. Procrastination Procrastination is a common form of self-sabotage. It's easy to put things off until the last minute or to get distracted by other tasks or activities. However, procrastination can quickly become a vicious cycle. The more we procrastinate, the more we stress about the task at hand, which makes it even more difficult to start. To overcome procrastination, try breaking tasks into smaller, more manageable pieces and setting specific deadlines for each one.

  2. Fear of Failure Many people are afraid of failing, which can prevent them from even trying. This fear can be paralyzing and can stop us from pursuing our goals and dreams. However, failure is a natural part of the learning process, and it's important to embrace it as a stepping stone to success. To overcome the fear of failure, try reframing it as an opportunity to learn and grow, and remind yourself that it's better to try and fail than to never try at all.

  3. Negative Self-Talk Negative self-talk can be incredibly destructive and can undermine our confidence and self-esteem. It's important to be kind to ourselves and to challenge negative self-talk when it arises. Instead of focusing on our weaknesses or perceived flaws, try to focus on our strengths and accomplishments.

  4. Perfectionism While striving for excellence can be a positive trait, perfectionism can be paralyzing. It's important to remember that no one is perfect, and that making mistakes is a natural part of the learning process. To overcome perfectionism, try setting realistic goals and accepting that there will be setbacks and challenges along the way.

  5. Lack of Focus Lack of focus can also sabotage success. It's easy to get distracted by other tasks or to lose sight of our goals. To overcome this, try setting clear goals and priorities, and create a plan to achieve them. It can also be helpful to limit distractions and create a work environment that promotes focus and productivity.

  6. Self-Doubt Self-doubt can be a major obstacle to success. It's easy to get caught up in negative thoughts and to doubt our own abilities. To overcome self-doubt, try focusing on your strengths and accomplishments, and remind yourself of times when you have succeeded in the past. It can also be helpful to seek support from friends, family, or a professional coach or therapist.

In conclusion, success is something that we all strive for, but it's important to recognize the ways in which we may be sabotaging our own efforts. By identifying and overcoming these self-sabotaging behaviors, we can increase our chances of achieving our goals and living a fulfilling life. Remember, success is within reach, and with the right mindset and approach, anything is possible.

But getting into the right mindset is usually the hardest part. If it was easy we wouldn't be struggling in the first place. It is hard because we try and 'fix' it with the part of our mind that comes up with reasons, arguments and excuses. That part is also enslaved to the rules and behaviour patterns we have learned. That part is the conscious mind and it holds us in check. It maintains what we view as our personality over time. Which is helpful, until it isn't. Because it also affects our self confidence.

The higher your self-esteem, the more self confidence you have. When you believe strongly in yourself and your right to have the success you want, all 6 of the above are weakened.

If you look at babies in the crawling stage, they have supreme confidence. They are full of curiosity and explore the world, scared of nothing. Happily picking things up, tasting them, feeling them, looking at them. Then they learn fear. Either by getting hurt themselves or learning from others reactions. The world of excitement and fun becomes scary. When they get disciplined or rejected they start to experience uncertainty about themselves. The inner voice is only trying to keep them safe but it becomes more negative than positive. More concerned with 'do not ....' than 'do...'. And before too long, confidence takes a significant knock.

An effective way of increasing self-confidence is by having hypnotherapy. Inner child work can process those negative feelings that feed the 6 and unlock the early sensations of freedom and positivity. If there were specific situations that caused distress, these can be accessed during regression and the tension released. Once your mind realises that a lot of these rules holding you back are self-imposed, changes are easier to make.

Whilst results of hypnotherapy may vary, the alternative is loads of self-help work, and that takes determination and the right mindset. So which would you choose?


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